Monday, September 7, 2015

Changing Attitudes and Behaviors

Begin with a sincere appreciation for the individual. Each person is unique with their own talents and specialty. Praise them for their accomplishments, or pointing out something special in them. The trick is to make them feel important and wanted.

Give them criticism indirectly. Wise people tell tales to make a point to an individual. They do not attack them directly. Humans make mistakes, but when one directly calls attention to their mistakes they often feel threatened.

One should criticize themselves first before they criticize others. This law has been taught in many books, including the bible which states, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" It only makes sense to look inwardly to find mistakes within yourself, before you start to find mistakes in others.

Instead of ordering someone to do something, ask critical questions to make them go about a behavior you want them to do. No one likes to hear a person bark orders. One must speak from the other person's situation and ask significant questions that make them think of the right thing to do.

In every improvement praise them sincerely and wholeheartedly. A person builds on confidence given to them by others. It is a powerful tool to change a person's attitudes and behaviors. Praising them is not a simple "good job", it is reminding them why they do the things they do. Praise others for their improvement, you never know how often they hear it.

Be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.

It is important to be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.  

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