It's never too late!

It is never too late to pick yourself back up! Keep pushing for the goals and the self-image you are destined for!  Make a mission out of life. Never give yourself up to those inhibitions that make you have fear. Is this the life you wanted? Are you satisfied with your current situation? If not quit the things that inhibit you and find other things that help your mission.

That was a little something that I was thinking about tonight, I know it's short compared to the other post, but I hope you were able to get pumped by it. 

It has been some time since I wrote a blog post. In that time, things have changed for the best. I want to continue to write for this blog like I used to. For anyone out there still visiting this blog, thank you for your patience and support. I want to write every day so that I may be able to motivate, enlighten, and inform you. 

Until next time, 

Wholeness and balance!

Changing Attitudes and Behaviors

Begin with a sincere appreciation for the individual. Each person is unique with their own talents and specialty. Praise them for their accomplishments, or pointing out something special in them. The trick is to make them feel important and wanted.

Give them criticism indirectly. Wise people tell tales to make a point to an individual. They do not attack them directly. Humans make mistakes, but when one directly calls attention to their mistakes they often feel threatened.

One should criticize themselves first before they criticize others. This law has been taught in many books, including the bible which states, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" It only makes sense to look inwardly to find mistakes within yourself, before you start to find mistakes in others.

Instead of ordering someone to do something, ask critical questions to make them go about a behavior you want them to do. No one likes to hear a person bark orders. One must speak from the other person's situation and ask significant questions that make them think of the right thing to do.

In every improvement praise them sincerely and wholeheartedly. A person builds on confidence given to them by others. It is a powerful tool to change a person's attitudes and behaviors. Praising them is not a simple "good job", it is reminding them why they do the things they do. Praise others for their improvement, you never know how often they hear it.

Be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.

It is important to be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.  

Emotions and Conversations

The most potent stories come from an individual who first slows down and takes ownership of their actions. People often have the problem of slowing down when taking. To slow down the fast pace talking and the release of the adrenaline, make sure you ground yourself consecutively. You must analyze the current situation you're in. Then after, you must get figure out why you're doing it. Essentially you wanna ask critical questions such as, what is the current emotion that I'm feeling?, why did these emotions make me act this way?,  what evidence do I have to behave this way? Process this information externally and internally. 

It is important to be aware of your behavior, if you are constantly questioning your motives, thoughts, or other people's, you will get no where. Being aware must come deep within your heart. If you keep on giving excuses for negatives actions, you will not see the need to change. If you constantly blame other people for the faults that you create, you will not feel obligated to take a different approach to analyzing the situation that you are currently in. Consider yourself being silent or turning towards anger when you are talking to someone about a hot topic. You must act as if you are being televised to the world. You must think about how people would view your behavior, actions, words, and motives. People who master crucial conversations are aware that they are beginning to slip into some unattended emotions, but they are easily able to admit it. Therefore, it is easier to take the right actions the movement they realize that they are killing the conversation. 

Getting in touch with your feelings is a necessary skill to master conversation. You must be enthusiastic. You must connect with your heart. Explore the feelings inside of you. People commonly say, "I'm okay", when being asked how are you. Most people are emotionally illiterate, meaning it is hard for them to describe all the feelings that encompass our bodies. Sometimes they are not descriptive enough. For example when someone is usually mad, they say "I'm mad!", when in all reality, they could very well be embarrassed and shocked. You may ask yourself, why is this important, well it is significant to accurately describe your feelings, to lead to better outcome of situations. The people around you will better understand how you are feeling. In order to get in touch with your feelings you must expand your emotional vocabulary. You must have emotional control in the conversation. You have to challenge yourself to say that these emotions are not the right emotion for the circumstance. Break the illusion that the emotions created and be free to express your ideas accurately and effectively.  

The Sale

When you master the art of selling, you are really mastering the art of humanity. You see each time we encounter an individual we are selling. Selling is giving: giving time, attention, lessons, showing empathy, and value. The word sell comes from the old english word, sellan which means to give. Think about what is your motive when you approach this individual. Having a strong motive internalizes within yourself. So be careful what you internalize, because attitudes rub off to other people. Generally, when you want to make a sale, you do so by genuinely believing in what you are selling as well as having strong motives. You could sell a product or yourself to an individual. 

People have no problem in believing their product and the helpfulness it is willing to share with people. The hard part comes when people try to "pitch" or to follow a strict guideline that forces them to act with performance anxiety. No one likes someone that shoves stuff down their throat and expect them to like it. Instead, take a different approach, add value, give meaning to what you are doing, and continue to add value. Focus more on how you open to the individual and the start, rather than looking at the outcome. Ask great questions that make people say, yes, multiple times. Focus more on their individual's life, their wants, and needs. Keep the conversation flowing towards the individual, instead of yourself.  People should create value that impacts people's lives. They should build strong networks. Being one hundred percent real all the time with yourself and with others. Most importantly keep that mind open. 

The truth about selling is that it's not about your product, hell it's not even about you, it's strictly about the other person. What makes a great salesperson is the strong wholeheartedly interest with those around them. They shift their focus from acquiring to offering. This shift is essential, because it's a nice way to live life and conduct business, while being very profitable in a number of aspects. You don't need to have outgoing, naturally sociable, or friendly personality, for the fact that everyone makes friends. But this is missing the point, instead of focusing on yourself, focus on building up those around you, and in the process your internal system changes in accordance to the universe. 

Mastering the MetaVerbal Communication

Whoever every masters the art of communicating can reach extraordinary heights. Having impeccable communication skills grants you access to the gates of people's mind. You vividly explain things to make their minds chase after images that your vibrations provided them. Mastering the art of Metaverbal communication has to do with people communicating, not just by the simple words that we speak, but the whole other little quirks that exist in communication. This includes body language, tone, vocal pitch, juncture, and by using very particular words, sentence structures, and strategic placement of words to bring meaning in a whole new way. Some might call this "reading between the lines." It also includes the speaker's internal mind state, their feelings and intentions.

When you communicate with a person today try to notice the Metaverbal communication characteristics that make up that person. This could be from things like, from people saying "to be honest", which implies that they weren't being honest with you to being with, or it could be when people say, "... you know what I mean?", which could possibly indicate that they have some sort of worry, nervousness, concern, or they just want to you to justify that you understand them. In fact these sort of Metaverbal communication characteristics are an easy identifier of people, but often go unnoticed by the untrained eye. 

By being more aware to meta-talk,  you can analyze people better to understand them more, to see where they come from, and what their internal states are. As a result, the trained eye can easily speak his or her way through a number of problems. It can make you get the one that you desire most. You can practice by communicating from the heart. If you communicate things that are truth and with sincerity, you reach the hearts of the other individual. By mastering body language it shows that you are comfortable in your own skin, it can also be used to ward off unwanted people. Facial expressions go a long way as well, the act of smiling disarms the person in front of you, or it can be interpreted by them, you are sneaky. If we go in deeper, certain body language is used to communicate on another plane, to control certain people's subconscious mind without them knowing. This knowledge can also contribute to more comprehensive understanding of the ways in which people struggle with their anxieties when involved in certain situations. 

Till next time, Wholeness and Balance to all.