Gratitude

Practicing gratitude starts with appreciation for things that exist on Earth. Having a sense of appreciation for every person, every insect, every plant, every single matter, is key to progressing and moving forward. We all come from the same origin here on Earth; everything has its earthly purpose, it is your job to appreciate those purposes regardless of the circumstances or situation.

As you practice gratitude in this plane of existence, to the things around, you will notice that many of things that life has to offer provides an introspection and lesson for yourself.

You will learn to accept and be thankful for the situations that you experienced thus far, because they made you the person you are today. And if you want to change yourself, start practicing gratitude with yourself. Thank yourself for not giving up and actually wanting to change. Foster your seed of change. Water that seed with gratitude. 

Personal Responsibility & Change

In the long run everyone of us has a personal responsibility for our own behavior. Sure certain situations we fall victim to, but ultimately it's up for you to get past staying the victim. Taking responsibility does not mean that you were necessarily at fault yesterday, but instead taking responsibility means valuing your tools that you already have to change your life. Tools like changing an old pattern, learning a new skill, and focusing forward, all things that we naturally have. It is up to you to heal yourself.

Do not look externally for something to change you, you have to look internally for reassurance, prosperity, and hope for a better tomorrow. You have to take the responsibility to make the initial change and fight through the pain of succumbing to your old ways. Just like in nature, we have to adapt to the new surrounding we create-taking on responsibility. However, if you do not attempt it, there will be no healing that you are looking for. Noticeable change obviously does not happen overnight, but change does happen when you take that first initial step.

Body Language

To understand is to be understood, to listen is to be heard. When we communicate to each other it is a highway of information being shared back and forth. Not only through words, but of course our facial features and our body positions. Most of the communication is done by our face, it has less to do with the words we speak. Furthermore, the tone and pitch you have is less significant from the body language you carry around. Body language is often overlooked, however we take notice to it everyday. In order to be an effective communicator, you must master the art of body language.

Mastering body language takes time. It takes time because people usually do not think how their body is positioned while talking. They are more focused with what they want to say rather than the position they are in. To be an effective communicator you must notice the position of your body each time before you talk. If you are having a conversation with a good friend, you will not try to close yourself up, meaning crossing your arms, no direct eye contact, and not the slightest bit of facial features. No, when you talk to a good friend, you open up, you look at them directly, and you smile. As an emotionally driven creature, we communicate emotionally to others through our body. Taking notice to all the minute details of the body is to understand yourself and the other person. You must have understood yourself, before you can understand other people. Body language makes people understand you better and it makes them want to listen to you. Having a good body language is something we should all strive for, regardless of what job you may have. Communication knows no boundaries. 

Face it

Face the situation that is troubling you with full force! Realize that time moves forward and a lot of the situations you've had in the past, stay there in the past. It is important to be confident and full of energy all the time. You make your past with each ticking second.

Do not doubt yourself, push yourself! Face the facts that someday we will all be long gone, all the hopes and dreams will be buried with you. Now is the time to do whatever you want.

Do not let any outside force dictate your happiness. Take control of your own life and do what you think best is for you. You already have a guess on what you might need to improve on, I'm only here to remind you of it. Now take that crucial first step and never look back!

Changing Attitudes and Behaviors

Begin with a sincere appreciation for the individual. Each person is unique with their own talents and specialty. Praise them for their accomplishments, or pointing out something special in them. The trick is to make them feel important and wanted.

Give them criticism indirectly. Wise people tell tales to make a point to an individual. They do not attack them directly. Humans make mistakes, but when one directly calls attention to their mistakes they often feel threatened.

One should criticize themselves first before they criticize others. This law has been taught in many books, including the bible which states, "Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?" It only makes sense to look inwardly to find mistakes within yourself, before you start to find mistakes in others.

Instead of ordering someone to do something, ask critical questions to make them go about a behavior you want them to do. No one likes to hear a person bark orders. One must speak from the other person's situation and ask significant questions that make them think of the right thing to do.

In every improvement praise them sincerely and wholeheartedly. A person builds on confidence given to them by others. It is a powerful tool to change a person's attitudes and behaviors. Praising them is not a simple "good job", it is reminding them why they do the things they do. Praise others for their improvement, you never know how often they hear it.

Be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.

It is important to be optimistic and to give encouragement. Situations happen in which one does not have control, it is important for you to sympathize and be optimistic about the situation. Make it seem easily manageable and could be taken down with ease. Make them feel excited to the things that you suggest. You are providing them a window of hope.