Emotions and Conversations

The most potent stories come from an individual who first slows down and takes ownership of their actions. People often have the problem of slowing down when taking. To slow down the fast pace talking and the release of the adrenaline, make sure you ground yourself consecutively. You must analyze the current situation you're in. Then after, you must get figure out why you're doing it. Essentially you wanna ask critical questions such as, what is the current emotion that I'm feeling?, why did these emotions make me act this way?,  what evidence do I have to behave this way? Process this information externally and internally. 

It is important to be aware of your behavior, if you are constantly questioning your motives, thoughts, or other people's, you will get no where. Being aware must come deep within your heart. If you keep on giving excuses for negatives actions, you will not see the need to change. If you constantly blame other people for the faults that you create, you will not feel obligated to take a different approach to analyzing the situation that you are currently in. Consider yourself being silent or turning towards anger when you are talking to someone about a hot topic. You must act as if you are being televised to the world. You must think about how people would view your behavior, actions, words, and motives. People who master crucial conversations are aware that they are beginning to slip into some unattended emotions, but they are easily able to admit it. Therefore, it is easier to take the right actions the movement they realize that they are killing the conversation. 

Getting in touch with your feelings is a necessary skill to master conversation. You must be enthusiastic. You must connect with your heart. Explore the feelings inside of you. People commonly say, "I'm okay", when being asked how are you. Most people are emotionally illiterate, meaning it is hard for them to describe all the feelings that encompass our bodies. Sometimes they are not descriptive enough. For example when someone is usually mad, they say "I'm mad!", when in all reality, they could very well be embarrassed and shocked. You may ask yourself, why is this important, well it is significant to accurately describe your feelings, to lead to better outcome of situations. The people around you will better understand how you are feeling. In order to get in touch with your feelings you must expand your emotional vocabulary. You must have emotional control in the conversation. You have to challenge yourself to say that these emotions are not the right emotion for the circumstance. Break the illusion that the emotions created and be free to express your ideas accurately and effectively.  

The Sale

When you master the art of selling, you are really mastering the art of humanity. You see each time we encounter an individual we are selling. Selling is giving: giving time, attention, lessons, showing empathy, and value. The word sell comes from the old english word, sellan which means to give. Think about what is your motive when you approach this individual. Having a strong motive internalizes within yourself. So be careful what you internalize, because attitudes rub off to other people. Generally, when you want to make a sale, you do so by genuinely believing in what you are selling as well as having strong motives. You could sell a product or yourself to an individual. 

People have no problem in believing their product and the helpfulness it is willing to share with people. The hard part comes when people try to "pitch" or to follow a strict guideline that forces them to act with performance anxiety. No one likes someone that shoves stuff down their throat and expect them to like it. Instead, take a different approach, add value, give meaning to what you are doing, and continue to add value. Focus more on how you open to the individual and the start, rather than looking at the outcome. Ask great questions that make people say, yes, multiple times. Focus more on their individual's life, their wants, and needs. Keep the conversation flowing towards the individual, instead of yourself.  People should create value that impacts people's lives. They should build strong networks. Being one hundred percent real all the time with yourself and with others. Most importantly keep that mind open. 

The truth about selling is that it's not about your product, hell it's not even about you, it's strictly about the other person. What makes a great salesperson is the strong wholeheartedly interest with those around them. They shift their focus from acquiring to offering. This shift is essential, because it's a nice way to live life and conduct business, while being very profitable in a number of aspects. You don't need to have outgoing, naturally sociable, or friendly personality, for the fact that everyone makes friends. But this is missing the point, instead of focusing on yourself, focus on building up those around you, and in the process your internal system changes in accordance to the universe.