The Sale

When you master the art of selling, you are really mastering the art of humanity. You see each time we encounter an individual we are selling. Selling is giving: giving time, attention, lessons, showing empathy, and value. The word sell comes from the old english word, sellan which means to give. Think about what is your motive when you approach this individual. Having a strong motive internalizes within yourself. So be careful what you internalize, because attitudes rub off to other people. Generally, when you want to make a sale, you do so by genuinely believing in what you are selling as well as having strong motives. You could sell a product or yourself to an individual. 

People have no problem in believing their product and the helpfulness it is willing to share with people. The hard part comes when people try to "pitch" or to follow a strict guideline that forces them to act with performance anxiety. No one likes someone that shoves stuff down their throat and expect them to like it. Instead, take a different approach, add value, give meaning to what you are doing, and continue to add value. Focus more on how you open to the individual and the start, rather than looking at the outcome. Ask great questions that make people say, yes, multiple times. Focus more on their individual's life, their wants, and needs. Keep the conversation flowing towards the individual, instead of yourself.  People should create value that impacts people's lives. They should build strong networks. Being one hundred percent real all the time with yourself and with others. Most importantly keep that mind open. 

The truth about selling is that it's not about your product, hell it's not even about you, it's strictly about the other person. What makes a great salesperson is the strong wholeheartedly interest with those around them. They shift their focus from acquiring to offering. This shift is essential, because it's a nice way to live life and conduct business, while being very profitable in a number of aspects. You don't need to have outgoing, naturally sociable, or friendly personality, for the fact that everyone makes friends. But this is missing the point, instead of focusing on yourself, focus on building up those around you, and in the process your internal system changes in accordance to the universe. 

Three Types of People

People all throughout our life give us indirect and direct messages about ourselves. They come in a variety of ways, both electronically and physically. These messages forced upon us tend to make us feel unworthy and dependent about ourselves, consequently molding the individual to develop images about themselves, in the process influencing the way they are expected to behave. 

Around the world, people carry titles of themselves, from the the police officer, to the academic professor, etc., people use these titles to mold people's behavior and expected to act a certain way. It is often communicated across that you are supposed to be polite, modest, and the suppression of powerful emotion. We grow up in these society that ever since enter the schooling system  we are taught to obey a certain way of standards. Internally this affects our psyche as an individual and as a society. 

Often times the system produces people with patterned behavior, suppressed aggression, and low self-esteem. Driving this dependency is technology as well, look how many seek attention online, but are forced to perform a certain way online, in their photos, and the way they speak, they grow even more dependent to this system. Norms are meant to emotionally damage you to have conflicts within yourself. These conflicts produces guilt feelings internally, thus modifying the behavior of the individual to further comply with the norms.

You have to be independent from the herd. You become aware of another fascinating condition of yourself. Only by breaking the chains of norms you are able to release your emotion with true flare. Over time you begin to change your self-image in many aspects. Regardless of the messages imposed on you from anyone, you become who you are, making your own true decisions and what you feel is necessary for you. You instead shift your patterns and behavior, but at a higher frequency. 

The person that we should all try to achieve, is one that is both free from dependency and independency. We move to a stage where we can enjoy both, or not at all. An individual moves freely of patterned behaviors of both types, you can exchange feelings of anger, joy, and aggression with others. This individual is able to depend on others and have other depend on them, in mutual respects. They begin to develop a more accurate self-image, having both good and bad feelings about themselves. They have worry not only for the people around them, but around the planet. People who are dependent, bound by societal norms, and destructive behavior, cannot even comprehend the mind of an individual who is interdependent.  

Raise your awareness. Wholeness and Balance to all. 

 

Mastering the MetaVerbal Communication

Whoever every masters the art of communicating can reach extraordinary heights. Having impeccable communication skills grants you access to the gates of people's mind. You vividly explain things to make their minds chase after images that your vibrations provided them. Mastering the art of Metaverbal communication has to do with people communicating, not just by the simple words that we speak, but the whole other little quirks that exist in communication. This includes body language, tone, vocal pitch, juncture, and by using very particular words, sentence structures, and strategic placement of words to bring meaning in a whole new way. Some might call this "reading between the lines." It also includes the speaker's internal mind state, their feelings and intentions.

When you communicate with a person today try to notice the Metaverbal communication characteristics that make up that person. This could be from things like, from people saying "to be honest", which implies that they weren't being honest with you to being with, or it could be when people say, "... you know what I mean?", which could possibly indicate that they have some sort of worry, nervousness, concern, or they just want to you to justify that you understand them. In fact these sort of Metaverbal communication characteristics are an easy identifier of people, but often go unnoticed by the untrained eye. 

By being more aware to meta-talk,  you can analyze people better to understand them more, to see where they come from, and what their internal states are. As a result, the trained eye can easily speak his or her way through a number of problems. It can make you get the one that you desire most. You can practice by communicating from the heart. If you communicate things that are truth and with sincerity, you reach the hearts of the other individual. By mastering body language it shows that you are comfortable in your own skin, it can also be used to ward off unwanted people. Facial expressions go a long way as well, the act of smiling disarms the person in front of you, or it can be interpreted by them, you are sneaky. If we go in deeper, certain body language is used to communicate on another plane, to control certain people's subconscious mind without them knowing. This knowledge can also contribute to more comprehensive understanding of the ways in which people struggle with their anxieties when involved in certain situations. 

Till next time, Wholeness and Balance to all.