Hope

As a kid we are so curious to the world. We grow up believing in mythical creatures, myths, and legends. The power of belief is the most powerful force one can utilize. We hope for a better future, which is reinstated by the power of belief. Some have a strong intuition that boost belief in themselves. Sometimes scientists like to refer to this as the placebo effect, however, that is just a scientific term to explain something that is not fully understandable.

Belief is the type of force that dictates your emotions. People resonating in the negative frequencies, will have little belief in themselves and others. People that are not hopeful and don't belief in themselves are in a very dangerous situation of trapping themselves in misery. Having hope and time are the only two things that humans have. These two things you must familiarize yourself with. Hope gives you the power to do what you want, giving you freedom to relax and not always worrying about what could possible happen. We know that death is certain, yet you don't see everyone hiding in their house avoiding it. The only thing that makes you continue your day and lets you rest at night is hope. Hope for a prosperous future. Hope that things will turn out well for you. Hope that gives you freedom. Having belief in yourself, is being hopeful. 

You must be certain that you will achieve perfection. Perfection always takes practice, however, if you never have the belief and hope within yourself, you will always fall short of your endeavors. A word of advice, believe that you can do anything that you can put your mind to. It takes time, but that's the beauty. You will always have hope to follow you with time. Make good friends with them. 

Wholeness and Balance to all. 

Release

A person is constantly being tested during each situation. The ups and downs either create personal development of oneself or, the personal fears created by the individual. The observer is free to choose which one dominates one's mind. One cannot change the nature of life, and must deal with the actions one takes and the actions that the universe takes. We must understand that life is constantly changing, but if you have fear you won't like change. Life around you is constantly in your comfort zone. In this zone you do not have fear. Fear is something that we create internally. We constantly attempt to manipulate life to live in the comfort zone.

Fear is is produced in some people, because they are afraid of the outcome of the situation. Take the action you have been constantly thinking about. Fear is preventing you from reaching your true potential. When people are tested out of their comfort zone, they act nervously or try to run away from the situation. You must strike the barrier in your mind with your will and just act. You have everything to lose, and everything to gain. It is up to you to choose the path you take. Fear is constantly provoking you to take situations that you shouldn't. You fall victim to your fear, however, you must slay the fear inside your mind by being aware of the life around you. You must release to achieve your true potential. 

Destructive Traps of Humans

Life as we know it is a system of patterned behavior that comes from programmed forms of survival instincts. Destructive traps of humans are the unwanted results of a rigid pattern that one fails to evaluate effectively. People are highly prone to their own physiological traps. 

People fall into a trap when they connect one's integrity, morals, and self-esteem, with an undertaking to which one assigns a value. This leads to one believing that one oneself is the problem, or that an outside force is responsible for the destructive results. 

Another is when a person assumes to mimic a certain role to others, in which they defend it full heartedly. For example, people wish to fulfill a role, like an expert, a parent, a teacher,etc. When one begins to play this character it limits many behavioral options. One feels compelled to lead a certain role that is rigid, but when one has more flexible behavior, it would achieve more desirable results. 

Finally, in addition there is one resulting from confusing results with action. Results are only as good as your actions. When you lack a clearly effective managed schedule, you often resort to doing actions that you wouldn't do for the most part. The schedule should contain some leisure time, not being rigid at all, but with specific planned out events that help you in the long run with your ultimate goal, also giving you the time you need to rest.  

Emotions and Conversations

The most potent stories come from an individual who first slows down and takes ownership of their actions. People often have the problem of slowing down when taking. To slow down the fast pace talking and the release of the adrenaline, make sure you ground yourself consecutively. You must analyze the current situation you're in. Then after, you must get figure out why you're doing it. Essentially you wanna ask critical questions such as, what is the current emotion that I'm feeling?, why did these emotions make me act this way?,  what evidence do I have to behave this way? Process this information externally and internally. 

It is important to be aware of your behavior, if you are constantly questioning your motives, thoughts, or other people's, you will get no where. Being aware must come deep within your heart. If you keep on giving excuses for negatives actions, you will not see the need to change. If you constantly blame other people for the faults that you create, you will not feel obligated to take a different approach to analyzing the situation that you are currently in. Consider yourself being silent or turning towards anger when you are talking to someone about a hot topic. You must act as if you are being televised to the world. You must think about how people would view your behavior, actions, words, and motives. People who master crucial conversations are aware that they are beginning to slip into some unattended emotions, but they are easily able to admit it. Therefore, it is easier to take the right actions the movement they realize that they are killing the conversation. 

Getting in touch with your feelings is a necessary skill to master conversation. You must be enthusiastic. You must connect with your heart. Explore the feelings inside of you. People commonly say, "I'm okay", when being asked how are you. Most people are emotionally illiterate, meaning it is hard for them to describe all the feelings that encompass our bodies. Sometimes they are not descriptive enough. For example when someone is usually mad, they say "I'm mad!", when in all reality, they could very well be embarrassed and shocked. You may ask yourself, why is this important, well it is significant to accurately describe your feelings, to lead to better outcome of situations. The people around you will better understand how you are feeling. In order to get in touch with your feelings you must expand your emotional vocabulary. You must have emotional control in the conversation. You have to challenge yourself to say that these emotions are not the right emotion for the circumstance. Break the illusion that the emotions created and be free to express your ideas accurately and effectively.  

The Sale

When you master the art of selling, you are really mastering the art of humanity. You see each time we encounter an individual we are selling. Selling is giving: giving time, attention, lessons, showing empathy, and value. The word sell comes from the old english word, sellan which means to give. Think about what is your motive when you approach this individual. Having a strong motive internalizes within yourself. So be careful what you internalize, because attitudes rub off to other people. Generally, when you want to make a sale, you do so by genuinely believing in what you are selling as well as having strong motives. You could sell a product or yourself to an individual. 

People have no problem in believing their product and the helpfulness it is willing to share with people. The hard part comes when people try to "pitch" or to follow a strict guideline that forces them to act with performance anxiety. No one likes someone that shoves stuff down their throat and expect them to like it. Instead, take a different approach, add value, give meaning to what you are doing, and continue to add value. Focus more on how you open to the individual and the start, rather than looking at the outcome. Ask great questions that make people say, yes, multiple times. Focus more on their individual's life, their wants, and needs. Keep the conversation flowing towards the individual, instead of yourself.  People should create value that impacts people's lives. They should build strong networks. Being one hundred percent real all the time with yourself and with others. Most importantly keep that mind open. 

The truth about selling is that it's not about your product, hell it's not even about you, it's strictly about the other person. What makes a great salesperson is the strong wholeheartedly interest with those around them. They shift their focus from acquiring to offering. This shift is essential, because it's a nice way to live life and conduct business, while being very profitable in a number of aspects. You don't need to have outgoing, naturally sociable, or friendly personality, for the fact that everyone makes friends. But this is missing the point, instead of focusing on yourself, focus on building up those around you, and in the process your internal system changes in accordance to the universe. 

Three Types of People

People all throughout our life give us indirect and direct messages about ourselves. They come in a variety of ways, both electronically and physically. These messages forced upon us tend to make us feel unworthy and dependent about ourselves, consequently molding the individual to develop images about themselves, in the process influencing the way they are expected to behave. 

Around the world, people carry titles of themselves, from the the police officer, to the academic professor, etc., people use these titles to mold people's behavior and expected to act a certain way. It is often communicated across that you are supposed to be polite, modest, and the suppression of powerful emotion. We grow up in these society that ever since enter the schooling system  we are taught to obey a certain way of standards. Internally this affects our psyche as an individual and as a society. 

Often times the system produces people with patterned behavior, suppressed aggression, and low self-esteem. Driving this dependency is technology as well, look how many seek attention online, but are forced to perform a certain way online, in their photos, and the way they speak, they grow even more dependent to this system. Norms are meant to emotionally damage you to have conflicts within yourself. These conflicts produces guilt feelings internally, thus modifying the behavior of the individual to further comply with the norms.

You have to be independent from the herd. You become aware of another fascinating condition of yourself. Only by breaking the chains of norms you are able to release your emotion with true flare. Over time you begin to change your self-image in many aspects. Regardless of the messages imposed on you from anyone, you become who you are, making your own true decisions and what you feel is necessary for you. You instead shift your patterns and behavior, but at a higher frequency. 

The person that we should all try to achieve, is one that is both free from dependency and independency. We move to a stage where we can enjoy both, or not at all. An individual moves freely of patterned behaviors of both types, you can exchange feelings of anger, joy, and aggression with others. This individual is able to depend on others and have other depend on them, in mutual respects. They begin to develop a more accurate self-image, having both good and bad feelings about themselves. They have worry not only for the people around them, but around the planet. People who are dependent, bound by societal norms, and destructive behavior, cannot even comprehend the mind of an individual who is interdependent.  

Raise your awareness. Wholeness and Balance to all. 

 

Human Nature

As we grow, we acquire traits from our peers and environment. These traits mold our behavior and relations with other people. It also has much to do on how one views the nature of man. Of course the nature of man has differences. We are not all the same. We can only cluster to those that have similar views upon the nature of man. Looking back through time, we can find three basic assumptions on human nature.  These common assumptions lead to various behavioral adaptations that one experience throughout life.

People have three common theories about human nature: humanistic, animalistic, or rational. This does not mean all people fall into one category, usually you can find people that fits in or the other, or just fits one. However the case may be surely you can gain some insight in yourself and others.

From the humanistic approach, a person is driven by humane concerns for self and others. They feel affection, mercy, and compassion. The humanistic individual is self-actualizing, meaning they seek for finding one's true potential. There is little outside control, since the humanistic individual will practice self-control through the concerns of themselves and others. 

Based on the Animalistic viewpoint, the nature of human beings is no different from that of the other animals that inhabit our planet. Driven by the biological urges and seeking gratification of those urges, human animals must be controlled by laws, morals,religion, and other forms of institutionalization. 

According to the rational theory, human beings are rational. Meaning they are inherently neither good nor evil. They are driven by intellect and reason. The individual is controlled by logical thinking and the judgement of the consequences of their actions to themselves and others. 

If we embrace the animalistic theory, we will probably approach others competitively and cautiously. We will feel the need to raise up our guard and protect ourselves. We will not trust people with information as it might be used against us. We search for ways as a society to control animalistic deviant behaviors. 

We put on a whole need pair of eyes when we view people in the humanistic approach. We will assume that people will not hurt us intentionally, therefore trusting them with information. We will be cooperative. The only control we will need in this case is knowledge. By being aware that you are doing something harmful, the humanistic person attempts to modify their behavior in accordance to one. 

If we view people as rational beings, we negotiate with them on a logical basis for mutually beneficial and compatible behaviors. We could discuss with them our feelings, attitudes, needs, and goals. We can work with them solving problems with reasonable and equal work. 

There is something about this that lets us explore ourselves deeply. One may find that one identifies with all three. When this is the case changing your nature, you have to separate the animal, rational, and human side of your soul, if you want to change one. Depending on which one you embrace you support more of the habits it entails. This could be used to help you personally grow, or help those around you grow as well. 

Till next time, Wholeness and Balance to all.