It's never too late!

It is never too late to pick yourself back up! Keep pushing for the goals and the self-image you are destined for!  Make a mission out of life. Never give yourself up to those inhibitions that make you have fear. Is this the life you wanted? Are you satisfied with your current situation? If not quit the things that inhibit you and find other things that help your mission.

That was a little something that I was thinking about tonight, I know it's short compared to the other post, but I hope you were able to get pumped by it. 

It has been some time since I wrote a blog post. In that time, things have changed for the best. I want to continue to write for this blog like I used to. For anyone out there still visiting this blog, thank you for your patience and support. I want to write every day so that I may be able to motivate, enlighten, and inform you. 

Until next time, 

Wholeness and balance!

The Journey

The journey begins where you want to start. It can be at any moment. We humans the incredible ability that separates us from all animals that allows us to coordinate our actions. When taking the first action of whatever you desire, never look back. Realize that the actions you just committed is before you and you can use it as a lesson tool. Actions that you commit in the present over a prolong period of time really shows growth. The plant can only grow as big as the pot it is in. You must be the mighty sequoia that is firmly planted in the ground ready to grow over time no matter what may come.

It's not about the desired results. You must find meaning in the task that you do and focus less on the desired outcome. The journey of life is your narration. You are responsible for the actions and reactions you send off. Let yourself bask in the present, analyze and lay to rest the past, and keep moving forward with humbility, knowing where you came from.

Until next time,

Wholeness and balance.

Emotions and Conversations

The most potent stories come from an individual who first slows down and takes ownership of their actions. People often have the problem of slowing down when taking. To slow down the fast pace talking and the release of the adrenaline, make sure you ground yourself consecutively. You must analyze the current situation you're in. Then after, you must get figure out why you're doing it. Essentially you wanna ask critical questions such as, what is the current emotion that I'm feeling?, why did these emotions make me act this way?,  what evidence do I have to behave this way? Process this information externally and internally. 

It is important to be aware of your behavior, if you are constantly questioning your motives, thoughts, or other people's, you will get no where. Being aware must come deep within your heart. If you keep on giving excuses for negatives actions, you will not see the need to change. If you constantly blame other people for the faults that you create, you will not feel obligated to take a different approach to analyzing the situation that you are currently in. Consider yourself being silent or turning towards anger when you are talking to someone about a hot topic. You must act as if you are being televised to the world. You must think about how people would view your behavior, actions, words, and motives. People who master crucial conversations are aware that they are beginning to slip into some unattended emotions, but they are easily able to admit it. Therefore, it is easier to take the right actions the movement they realize that they are killing the conversation. 

Getting in touch with your feelings is a necessary skill to master conversation. You must be enthusiastic. You must connect with your heart. Explore the feelings inside of you. People commonly say, "I'm okay", when being asked how are you. Most people are emotionally illiterate, meaning it is hard for them to describe all the feelings that encompass our bodies. Sometimes they are not descriptive enough. For example when someone is usually mad, they say "I'm mad!", when in all reality, they could very well be embarrassed and shocked. You may ask yourself, why is this important, well it is significant to accurately describe your feelings, to lead to better outcome of situations. The people around you will better understand how you are feeling. In order to get in touch with your feelings you must expand your emotional vocabulary. You must have emotional control in the conversation. You have to challenge yourself to say that these emotions are not the right emotion for the circumstance. Break the illusion that the emotions created and be free to express your ideas accurately and effectively.  

The Sale

When you master the art of selling, you are really mastering the art of humanity. You see each time we encounter an individual we are selling. Selling is giving: giving time, attention, lessons, showing empathy, and value. The word sell comes from the old english word, sellan which means to give. Think about what is your motive when you approach this individual. Having a strong motive internalizes within yourself. So be careful what you internalize, because attitudes rub off to other people. Generally, when you want to make a sale, you do so by genuinely believing in what you are selling as well as having strong motives. You could sell a product or yourself to an individual. 

People have no problem in believing their product and the helpfulness it is willing to share with people. The hard part comes when people try to "pitch" or to follow a strict guideline that forces them to act with performance anxiety. No one likes someone that shoves stuff down their throat and expect them to like it. Instead, take a different approach, add value, give meaning to what you are doing, and continue to add value. Focus more on how you open to the individual and the start, rather than looking at the outcome. Ask great questions that make people say, yes, multiple times. Focus more on their individual's life, their wants, and needs. Keep the conversation flowing towards the individual, instead of yourself.  People should create value that impacts people's lives. They should build strong networks. Being one hundred percent real all the time with yourself and with others. Most importantly keep that mind open. 

The truth about selling is that it's not about your product, hell it's not even about you, it's strictly about the other person. What makes a great salesperson is the strong wholeheartedly interest with those around them. They shift their focus from acquiring to offering. This shift is essential, because it's a nice way to live life and conduct business, while being very profitable in a number of aspects. You don't need to have outgoing, naturally sociable, or friendly personality, for the fact that everyone makes friends. But this is missing the point, instead of focusing on yourself, focus on building up those around you, and in the process your internal system changes in accordance to the universe. 

Three Types of People

People all throughout our life give us indirect and direct messages about ourselves. They come in a variety of ways, both electronically and physically. These messages forced upon us tend to make us feel unworthy and dependent about ourselves, consequently molding the individual to develop images about themselves, in the process influencing the way they are expected to behave. 

Around the world, people carry titles of themselves, from the the police officer, to the academic professor, etc., people use these titles to mold people's behavior and expected to act a certain way. It is often communicated across that you are supposed to be polite, modest, and the suppression of powerful emotion. We grow up in these society that ever since enter the schooling system  we are taught to obey a certain way of standards. Internally this affects our psyche as an individual and as a society. 

Often times the system produces people with patterned behavior, suppressed aggression, and low self-esteem. Driving this dependency is technology as well, look how many seek attention online, but are forced to perform a certain way online, in their photos, and the way they speak, they grow even more dependent to this system. Norms are meant to emotionally damage you to have conflicts within yourself. These conflicts produces guilt feelings internally, thus modifying the behavior of the individual to further comply with the norms.

You have to be independent from the herd. You become aware of another fascinating condition of yourself. Only by breaking the chains of norms you are able to release your emotion with true flare. Over time you begin to change your self-image in many aspects. Regardless of the messages imposed on you from anyone, you become who you are, making your own true decisions and what you feel is necessary for you. You instead shift your patterns and behavior, but at a higher frequency. 

The person that we should all try to achieve, is one that is both free from dependency and independency. We move to a stage where we can enjoy both, or not at all. An individual moves freely of patterned behaviors of both types, you can exchange feelings of anger, joy, and aggression with others. This individual is able to depend on others and have other depend on them, in mutual respects. They begin to develop a more accurate self-image, having both good and bad feelings about themselves. They have worry not only for the people around them, but around the planet. People who are dependent, bound by societal norms, and destructive behavior, cannot even comprehend the mind of an individual who is interdependent.  

Raise your awareness. Wholeness and Balance to all. 

 

Friendship

The idea of friendship seems to be a certain bond that it is shared between individuals that have interpersonal forms of communication. They tend to recognize that their emotions are mutually assured due to past experiences; The past meaning the individual sand particle that drops from the hourglass. Sharing vibes as they now like to call it, is having more than just a conversation, but it is the exchange individual's emotions and memories. Exchange for one's time for another's time is the ultimate respect you can give to someone. Why let that negative person take your time away from the many possibilities that exist? You shared a destructive past with this individual, learn from it, continue to progress forward. The sand will collect at the end of the hourglass and have to be flipped once more.

Building friendships is one the most sacred things about life. The union of individuals driven by an idea, motivated by each other, building one another, are some of the many outcomes that can occur from a strong bond. The bond is built not only built by compatibility, but is by helping that individual grow. Giving back to your friends and those around ultimately form an exchange that happens within in their mind, that allows you to build these beautiful strong connections that exist in nature. We can think how packs of animals hunt better together, how colonies of ants can make marvelous structures, how the cells in our boy multiple in unionship; Each share synchronicity. Synchronicity exist within in a society or in a group when things appear to the whole as the right the thing to do, could be animalistic, humanistic, or rational based forms of bonds that occur.

Depending on the type of bond being shared you can either move in two ways, one, building a stronger bond with this individual or group, or two, stop exchanging your time with these individuals. You already know which individuals in your life you need to stop exchanging with. You also know what individuals you need to build stronger relationships with; To help each other out for mutual exchanges for the greater good. If you decide to build a stronger relationship with that person, due so with the purest form of your being, you should not have to shroud your true self with the mask and cape you put on for the rest of the world. This lets you first of be comfortable with yourself, but with the other individuals, and if they condemn you from this, stop the exchange of time you have with these individuals. By being yourself this lets others have the chance to share their ideas of a number of stuff, furthering the bond of exchangement between the individuals.

Now, let's say you take the second path, depending on the severity of the damaging relationship, you must eliminate contact with this person.Obviously will think about this person, but just remember the harmful things they have done, and the stuff that you didn't deserve, use this as fuel to drive better forms of bonds between the right people and use it to progress yourself. It's tough to say that life is cruel sometimes - you have things happen to you that no human should experience here on earth and it is usually done by the ones you love most. Do not let this discourage you, this only but a fraction of your life that your experiencing, use it to empower you physically and most importantly mentally.When the hourglass finally breaks the only thing that mattered was how strong the sand was able to stick together.